”Everything created is a solution to something” as told by ”Miss Hattie” while
“on the front porch” as told by Eric Thomas, The Hip Hop Preacher
Once again, I feel as though with the temperature of the world currently, I have to present to you a preface. I am in no way making light of anyone’s pain. If you have read this far, you know that I’ve had my own painful journey and certainly am empathetic and understanding to everyone’s journey, painful or not. The following addition to my blog is just my experience and mine alone. I have found throughout my life that the pain of the trials that I have been through have moved me forward and allowed me to add “skills” to my life résumé. My hope is that you will too.
“Conflict Resolution”. I went from surviving an attack and escaping with my son, and our lives, by the man who went on to stalk me for 4 1/2 years and turned that into life-skills. I think that night was the scariest of my life. As a matter of fact, I KNOW it was. I knew I had to keep a level head in order to grab my son and get us out of there alive. I saw it in his eyes and heard it in his voice. I could feel in my soul. Calming myself in the moment of extreme fear and having enough insight to realize I had to play this situation well…or else…wasn’t completely foreign to me. In the face of uncertainty, I slowed my speech and lowered my voice while speaking to him. “Don’t worry, I’ll clean that up tomorrow it’s no big deal. Let’s just get some rest tonight. Everything will be ok in the morning.” The almost loving inflection in my tone shocked even me at that moment. Negotiating my exit in a matter-of-fact and reassuring way came from the hip. What did I have to lose? “Read the room” is a great skill I learned as a child and needed to bring forth that day. I learned to “know my audience” in order to get what I needed…which was out of that house alive. ”Placating the situation” that day and throughout my career has helped me tremendously over the years in dealing with disgruntled employees and patients. “Act as if” my dad always said…own it. I had to act as if all was well and that I was just going to go to mom’s for the night so things could calm down and we would talk about it tomorrow”. And most important of all, ”Don’t look back”. Don’t dwell on the mistakes. Focus on the lesson and skills you learned. And ”soldier on” ladies.
Write that shit down on your resume girl. God doesn’t bring you through stuff that big to use it only once! Then, put it back in your tool bag. Cuz you’re gonna need it again some day.
Nobody’s Bleeding 